Goodbyes

I am wrapping up this summer with a series of goodbyes. Goodbye to the sunny days—though they might return unexpectedly, brightening our hearts once more. Farewell to fresh produce, especially the juiciest blackberries from the farm near my house that were available throughout July and August. Saying goodbye to longer days and the chance to spend more time outdoors. A "see you soon" to the film I just finished shooting. Goodbye to dear ones, including my aunt, who unexpectedly left us at the beginning of September.

If you find goodbyes difficult, consider reframing them. I’ve never been a nostalgic person; I believe there's a time for everything. When I say goodbye, I also sense a welcoming, even if it’s a hard "see you soon." It’s a welcome to new opportunities and doors that open as others close. Then, we refresh, restart, or continue from where we left off. Say goodbye and, right after, welcome!

Welcome to the life that continues, to the cycle that begins anew, and to the ongoing journey. Goodbyes are important—they teach us this lesson. And if you need to cry, do it! Let your soul and heart be cleansed and open them to new welcomes. Let them come!

49 Days Since I Last Mentioned Cancer

Hello, I'm Rita Avellar, and it's been 49 days since I last mentioned cancer. Today, I'll talk about it. A year ago, I rang the bell, marking the end of chemotherapy, the first and longest stage of my treatment. Throughout this journey, I never let cancer define me. Sharing my story on social networks not only helped me but also motivated others facing similar challenges.

Reflecting on everything I've been through, it feels surreal. I recently spoke with my therapist about how strange it is to see pictures of myself bald. I didn't mind being bald; it had its simplicity. But the same when I was bald and looked at photos of myself with long hair, I didn't recognize that person anymore. And now, the same happens with my bald photos.

Cancer doesn't define me, but I can't help but celebrate each step and milestone. Not just for winning this battle, but for the personal growth this challenge has brought. It's a very personal journey, and I've gained countless experiences.

Life presents us with choices when faced with such challenges: learn and grow or complain and stagnate. I chose growth.

To all my friends who've been on this journey, we're in it together. It's tough, but there's light at the end of the tunnel. To those who have just started or will start this journey, hold on. As I told myself and now tell you, it's possible.