Last month I wrote on my blog about doing what need to do even you are afraid of. And I shared a personal story on that, and also, I a couple of weeks ago I share another post about doing something that scares you. (If you want to read all again - click here and here).
And then yesterday, listening to the Youtube channel and podcast Impact Theory, I was amazed what John Assaraf shared about dealing with fear and understanding it as a go signal and not a stop signal. That resonates so much with what I wrote before.
So, I decided to share some of what he said, since is so valuable and, a quick exercise you can do to deal with this emotion. Here it goes:
Fear is an emotion. Emotions are all triggers of the subconscious level. They release neurochemicals that cause a feeling. We are consciously aware of feelings that are triggers of the subconscious level. Feeling is the end point of the human experience in the physical body.
Emotions and feelings aren’t positive or negative. They are empowering or dis-empowering.
When you start asking yourself the "if" type questions, like “What if? What if am I not good enough? What if I can't do it? What If, if, if" and therefore fear installs in yourself, what are you going to do to deal with it?
1. It is normal to feel fear. So, first calm down to think clearer.
2. If this feeling is unpleasant (specially on your physical body), take 6 deep breaths (breath in from nose and breath out from your mouth).
3. Then ask yourself these questions: What am I thinking right now? What am I feeling right now? What am I sensing right now? What is my behavior right now? What is my intention right now?
Intentions are so important. Intentions make you to move forward. Go forward. And the idea here is not to let fear paralyze you. It is making it as a sign that you can move forward, with caution and attention, of course.
To move forward you need to take one small step, one small action that you can take right now that you brain can handle. If you take one step forward, the threat response goes away.
But if you focus on the end game right away, you are going to instantly trigger the stress response. Pains wire the brain faster for a survive mechanism.
John Assaraf suggests learning how to manage your mindset, what you focus on, learn how to manage your emotions, because they drive your behavior more than anything else.
What do you think?