Updated: May 1, 2019
We have between 50,000-80,000 thoughts per day, this means between 35 and 55 thoughts per minute per person. Isn’t that crazy? Our mind never seems to stop, producing one thought after another. And usually 80% of these thoughts are negative.
When we say negative means things you did or did not do, what you said to someone or shouldn’t have said and on and on. Also, negatives thoughts can also be related to critical thinking about yourself, the “what if” type thoughts and fears of all sorts, like having an accident or a terrible disease.
The problem is that when your thoughts pick up the pace and you start having them constantly and even not realizing, that generates…stress! This happens because the body prepares to fight or flight by releasing stress hormones and then you start living in a constant stress state.
If you identified yourself with that, you are not alone. It can happen to anyone! But there are ways to reverse negative thinking. Here are some ideas:
1. Listen to Yourself
I know is hard to pay attention to all your 50,000-80,000 thoughts per day, but at least start creating awareness about your negatives thoughts. One thing you can do is start taking notes on a notebook or on your phone, when you have one type of negative thought. When you listen to your inner thoughts and recognize the negative ones, you can transform them.
2. Changing the “negative-positive key”
When you start listening to your thoughts and recognizing the negative ones, you can change them mentally too. For example, lets suppose you had a negative thought like “I am not able to do this job, I am so dumb!”. Write it down on a notebook or your phone (or even mentally), identify why you are having it, what was the situation that made you think that way and then, rewrite it: I can do this job, I am so smart! Then, say it loud and/or read it to yourself a couple of times.
This tool is so powerful because it helps to find out the silence between the avalanche of thoughts, like a good housekeeping in your mind. I always suggest my clients to start meditating 5-10 minutes a day (if you are a beginner). Use your favorite essential oil in a diffuser, sit in a comfortable position or even lay down. Breath in through your nose, breath out through your mouth, 3 to 5 times. That’s it! 😉
Forgive yourself and let the feeling of “I am not enough” go away. Forgive your mistakes and embraces the experiences you had with them. Nourish yourself by sipping your favorite tea, reading a book, energizing yourself in nature, by doing something that makes you feel amazing.
5. Be grateful
Last but not least, be grateful. Look around and thank 3 things you are grateful each day. This attitude creates a strong love energy around you, protecting you from negative thoughts, stress, sadness…and If you need extra help, here is my gratitude meditation to do anytime you feel like. Enjoy!